A client of mine once asked me, “How can I have higher self-esteem?”
And my answer was simple: “Stop putting it down”.
We all know things to like about ourselves, but all too often, we focus on the things we don’t. We fixate on what’s wrong with us, rather than all the good qualities we possess. That focus causes you to feel negatively about yourself and lowers your self-esteem.
Self-esteem is the most important aspect of you because it’s about how you see and think about yourself which determine how you feel. From there, all of your decisions and choices are made:
- From a lower self-esteem, you make decisions that match that lowered sense of self, which is keeps you there
- From a higher self-esteem, you make healthier decisions that lead to greater benefits, which enable you to enjoy life more fully
Like a mirror, your life reflects back what you think about yourself.
As the results you get in life are in direct proportion to how you feel about yourself,
it’s critical to your quality of life to feel good about you.
And here’s what’s good to know: You don’t have to love yourself!
Not just yet. That’s a lot of work when you are prone to being self-critical.
But can you like yourself? Care for yourself? Respect who you are? Start doing what can make you feel good? Do what’s better for you?
Yes you can. And the more you do what feels good, the more you will grow your level of self-appreciation, self-value and self-worth.
You don’t have to love yourself right away; however you can start liking yourself and giving yourself the same care and respect you give to those you care about most.
And as you raise your self-esteem, life begins to change… for the better!
- You show up for others and won’t need their validation because you have your own
- You know your own importance
- When you feel good about yourself, you vibrate an energy that spreads to others, and makes them feel happy to be around you
- Your relationships become healthier and easier
With a higher esteem, you show up in the world with more to offer. You have more to give, more to share, and more to contribute.
When you have stronger self-esteem, you can deal with life concerns from an emotionally stronger place. You don’t take things so personally, you are detached by what others say, you don’t sweat the small stuff, and you’re better able to face the big challenges!
People who have higher self-esteem don’t suffer from depression or anxiety because when you feel good about yourself, you’re thinking what’s best for yourself and so you make choices that are best for you.
And when you like yourself, you enjoy taking care of yourself because you know you deserve it.
So if this is what having a higher self esteem is all about,
isn’t it worth raising it?
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